Last year, I gave you guys a few resolution ideas on behalf of the girlfriends, and this year I have come up with a few more for you to consider. You might be a great boyfriend, but everybody can afford to make some improvements.
Don’t stop trying to impress her.
You worked hard to get her. Mission accomplished, right? Wrong. You may have gotten the girl but it doesn’t end there. You have to put in the work to keep her. Similar to fitness cycles, you have to continue working to maintain and then increase the difficulty to avoid hitting a plateau. Stay sharp. Dress up once in a while. Don’t get sloppy. Keep opening doors for her. Take her on dates. Spoil her sometimes. Surprise her from time to time – women love surprises. Flowers, breakfast, candy… It’s really not that hard and even little surprises go a long way.
Don’t go to sleep angry.
Some people need to cool off after/during a fight, and that’s perfectly understandable. However, they say you should never go to sleep angry and I couldn’t agree more. It’s not healthy to sleep with so much negativity in your heart, and you’ll probably wake up feeling worse. Even if you can’t completely resolve the issue, at least calm down and say good night. Say good night every night. Tell her you love her (if you’re at that stage) even if you don’t like her much at that moment. Life is too short. You never know.
Tell her how you feel.
Tell her you like/love her. Tell her you appreciate her. Tell her you think she’s beautiful. Tell her she did a good job. Tell her if she did something to upset you. Feed her compliments. Say thank you if she does something nice for you. It’s true: actions speak louder than words, but words still need to be spoken. I make it a point to let the people I care about know that I care about them. I never forget my “please” and “thank you”s because I know those go a long way. Sometimes we need a vocal affirmation of our place in your lives. Don’t lose a good girl because you couldn’t tell her how you felt. If you don’t want her to leave you, speak up!
Show her off.
This might seem trivial but it kind of falls in the same category as my previous point. You don’t need to make profess your love to Twitter/Instagram/Facebook but a little acknowledgement is nice. Post pictures once in a while. Make sure that when people meet her, they know who she is. No girl wants to show up to her boyfriend’s birthday party after two years of dating and hear, “Oh, you’re his girlfriend? I didn’t know he had a girlfriend. How long have you been dating?” Sure, it’s good to keep your private life private but your girlfriend should never be a secret. And if you feel that she should, then perhaps you should reevaluate your relationship with her.
Don’t forget the little things.
Text her good morning. Call her to say good night. Wish her good luck before a big event. Wish her good luck before a small event. Remember how she likes her coffee. Remember her allergies so you don’t kill her when you decide to order for her. Bring her soup when she’s sick. Stay on the phone when she’s upset even if she doesn’t feel like talking. Bring her something you think she’d like. It lets her know you’re thinking about her.
Make sure you recognize that she is important in your life and don’t forget to show it. Just because she’s with you now doesn’t mean she’s guaranteed to stay with you forever especially if you’re not holding your weight.
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